I mourn for all of the sad and selfish people out there who feel that it is necessary to resort to negging. Think about it… rather than working on being their best selves, they choose to challenge and compromise the confidence of others. Instead of actively lifting themselves and others up, they drag those around them down to their despicable depths. Why be a nasty creature waiting in the mines of misery or Moria? You can choose to walk along channels of cherished confidence, planning to retire in the Shire, dames and sires.
Be humble in your confidence yet courageous in your character.
-Melanie Koulouris
I will clarify an important aspect. Choosing to be intentionally hurtful towards someone with blatant lies is the problem with negging. Choosing to be blunt with constructive criticism can be entirely different. One is sharing valuable truths that can be tricky to stomach while the other one is deceiving with falsities. In my humble opinion, I think tough love can be valid and warranted at times. Negging does not originate from an authentic place of true love. It exists due to selfish and corrupt ideas of love. Tough love can hurt, but it allows confidence to be built back stronger because a weakness can be identified and then improved upon. Are you ready and willing to put in that work, though?
I think the best way to have confidence is not to allow everyone else’s insecurities to be your own.
-Jessie J
Do not be a shell or an empty husk of your true self. Haters will hate. They will try to bring us down to their level. It is easier to be compliant when we are not confident. Be your best self, and ignore the other noise as best as you can. Avoid nothingness please.
To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, and be nothing.
-Aristotle
Do not allow anyone else to negate your inner light. Please propagate it for the positive people. There are plenty of us here, ready and waiting to cultivate collective confidence.
Maybe it is wise. Maybe it is dumb. Time will tell.