I felt such warmth and joy as I began this cycle because it delighted me immensely to discover how many different quotes about kindness I already had. Many virtues are typically covered well across the ages, but the amount for kindness caught me by surprise. I was not prepared for such focus on something that I often see as simple and possibly trivial. It shows how wrong I was. While it takes little to no effort, kindness can unfortunately still be easily sacrificed, due to unawareness, self-absorption, states of panic and hurry, or many other obstacles that obfuscate our objective outlook. Kindness can and should be our prioritized starting point when engaging with anything. We should approach ourselves with kindness, and we should approach all others with kindness. It does not matter how others choose to act or respond. We can still choose kindness each and every time. It can be planned; it can be random. Start somewhere; try something.
The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
-Oscar Wilde
I am so proud of something I did this morning. It may seem indirectly simple or small, but the shift feels very significant to me. While making my morning tea, a coworker greeted me. I started some standard pleasantries with her. As the conversation shifted to some nervous excitement for something that she was looking forward to next week, my initial reaction was going to be expressing my discontent or lack of excitement for next week’s event. Then, in a flash, something inside made me question why I would willingly bring the mood down. Instead of introducing my own rain cloud into the conversation, I replied honestly with the following response: “I appreciate your excitement for next week.” It let me start to feel another perspective. My words were kinder than my habituated default, and it shows how little moments add up. I can carry this momentum forward into more conversations as I make additional, subtle yet effective, microadjustments to my speech.
Small kindnesses make you a bigger person.
-Terri Guillemets
Kindness can be showcased in many ways, shapes, and forms. I believe strongly that our words should exhibit kindness, that our demeanor should exude kindness, and that our actions should exemplify kindness. During this cycle, I have found so much value in my frequent self-check-ins. Am I being too serious with myself right now? How lost in intense thought was I just then? Can I take a step back and be kinder and more present in more of these many moments? It is refreshing and liberating to kindle more kindness.
How do we change the world? One random act of kindness at a time.
-Morgan Freeman
A common expression that people talk about is “random acts of kindness”. I learned recently that it even exists as an acronym, RAK, so people may call you a RAKtivist if it is something you regularly practice. The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation created this term as they strive to inspire us all to make kindness the norm in our daily lives. I cannot think of many better forms of activism than random kindnesses. If you need some help thinking of examples, see below for a list of various options to assist in brainstorming. Perhaps you may notice, like I did, how much random kindness you already practice without recognizing or labeling it as such. Kudos if so; see if you can expand further!
The best portion of a good [person’s] life: [their] little, nameless unremembered acts of kindness and love.
-William Wordsworth
Possible opportunities to offer kindness:
- Hold the door open for someone.
- Let someone in front of you in line.
- Genuinely/honestly compliment a stranger. At lunch today, I saw someone beam when their hat was complimented.
- Leave a kind note in a public place. Someone may really need and value those words.
- Pick up litter as you come across it. The other day, I noticed empty boxes on a counter in the break room. I could ignore them like others, or I can clean the space up more, hopefully improving the mood of others who entered after me.
- Send a handwritten letter to a friend or family member.
- Donate old books, clothes, or other household items.
- Say thank you to someone you usually take for granted, like a janitor or cashier.
- Pay for the person behind you in line somewhere, like a drive-thru or toll booth.
- Donate blood, sign up for organ donation, and/or join a bone marrow registry.
- Send anonymous encouragement to a coworker or classmate.
- Volunteer at a local shelter or food bank.
- Leave a big tip for a server.
- Leave a positive review online for a small business that you love.
- Share someone’s art on social media.
- Text or call someone to simply express appreciation for them.
- Offer support to someone who may look lost, alone, frazzled, or afraid.
- Make a “kindness calendar” to track your RAK daily.
We can all fight against loneliness by engaging in random acts of kindness.
-Gail Honeyman
Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
-Mark Twain
I love the positive reinforcement that kindness promotes. I do not find myself reaching some quota where I suddenly feel sufficient. We do not need to define a stopping point or threshold to cease being kind. Pay it forward as much as you possibly can, for as long as you possibly can. Rooting kindness deep inside yourself as a core virtue will set you up for success. Whenever needed, slow down and reset yourself back to kindness mindsets.
Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.
-Seneca
You are always with yourself; there is always an opportunity. Seize your moments kindly.
Maybe it is wise. Maybe it is dumb. Time will tell.