Have you ever wondered… about boundaries? I have. Boundaries are meant to safeguard your sacred space. They should not impose on others, similar to how their boundaries should leave your lane and personal choices unaffected, too. Boundaries are guardrails.
One shouldn’t just hope to be treated well; one must insist on it.
-Abraham Verghese
Think about it… how can you expect people to respect your boundaries if you do not verbalize them? Therefore, boundaries present you with an opportunity to work on your confidence because you can voice which lines should not be crossed or which topics should not be broached. If someone chooses to ignore and encroach, then you have yet another chance to create more confidence by gently defending your boundary. If possible, there is no real need to be boisterous about it. You can still exude confidence while remaining calm, cool, and collected. Anything over the top may only incite petty oversteps by the poor- and paltry-minded. Stay focused confidently; you will be fine.
Confidence is not, ‘They will like me.’ Confidence instead is, ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t.’
-Christina Grimmie
Y’all, I will be the first to admit that I have been notoriously bad at establishing effective boundaries in my past. I had a habit of trying to keep the peace at all costs, being a people pleaser to my own detriment at times. It was not healthy, and I am not proud of that past. I am quite glad to admit that those times have mostly passed. Speaking up for myself and confidently defending my boundaries is not always easy, but I know it maintains a safe and healthy space for me to live and thrive in. I think it is silly for us to stretch ourselves to breaking points if we continually extend beyond our boundaries.
boundaries are the most direct way for you to protect your energy.
make them clear for your sake. if they aren't, people will just keep taking more and more, not maliciously, but because they won't know when you need space or when you are feeling depleted.
creating boundaries is a proactive way of designing your life. to help maintain your inner and outer vibrancy, you must decide with clarity who and what can enter your space and when. boundaries are not about being overly strict or mean; they are about using your awareness of what is genuinely good for you to build a sanctuary that supports your growth.
in a world where there is a constant battle for your attention and a potentially overwhelming amount of information, you need proper digital and in-person boundaries to support your mental health.
-yung pueblo
Do you know your boundaries? If not, then there is a good starting point for you. How much of your time should different people be allowed to have per day, week, or month? Yes, you can truly plan for allotments if that will help you confidently live your best life.
If you fail to plan,
-Benjamin Franklin
you plan to fail.
Declare and defend your demarcations.
Reassess and update based on inspirations.
Love all your good vocations and vacations.
Stay in your lane without any deviations.
Life your life confidently as a demonstration.
Show what is possible with determination.
Flow freely through life; embrace jubilation.
Maybe it is wise. Maybe it is dumb. Time will tell.